How to Overcome Your Own Self-Doubt

  Everyone struggles with self-doubt. We are, after-all, our own worst critics. So how do we shut down those inner voices of self-doubt to do what we want and to become who we want to become?  

Here are 5 tips on how to overcome your own self-doubt:

  First and foremost, understand that it’s completely natural to be scared or worried about pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone and trying new things. We all feel this and get worried about the outcome. It’s our mind telling us that this is something important to us, but that shouldn’t stop us from moving forward. It’s the same triggers for anxiety that tell us something important is going on. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t go for it, we just have to acknowledge that it is important to us and even more reason to push forward.  

Don’t let that internal warning system become a negative voice that talks you out of what you want.

  Second, validate yourself and your abilities. Validate what you believe and know in yourself that you CAN and WILL do what you set your mind to! This also includes having compassion for yourself and being your own cheerleader by reciting positive affirmations and believing in yourself.   Third, along with validation we need to challenge negative thoughts. Whatever that self-doubt and negative thought is, challenge it with at least 3 counter arguments and pieces of evidence that it’s not true. Here is an example: We may have the thoughts that we are “Not good enough”. With this self-doubt and negative thought, we would challenge it with 3 thoughts and examples that prove that to be false.

• There was that time you were picked for a special project or team (good enough!)
• There was that time you accomplished x,y,or z (good enough!)
• There is that example of when you felt you were good enough!

 

With any negative self-doubt we have, challenge it with 3 pieces of evidence against it!

  Fourth, stick to your values and what you want to accomplish. This is a very deep routed concept in sticking to your own core values. This can take form in not allowing yourself to get what you want and deserve, like a job, relationship, item, success. There is also the value of how you want others to believe in themselves or you. Don’t let that inner negative voice derail you from what you believe in. And most importantly, if you value others being treated positively and never saying the negative things you think of yourself to others, why are you “bullying” yourself with these negative self-thoughts and doubts?

Stick to your values in what you believe in!

  The fifth tip is to surround yourself with people that promote positive self-belief and love. There are people that want to build us up and will support us. Keep those people in your lives. And there are unfortunately people that are “haters” and will need boundaries set on them to not reinforce negative thoughts and perspective or just not be in your lives. Remember to stick to your values. Are “haters” and negative vibes and perspective what you value? Hopefully the answer is no, so stick to your values and surround yourself with people that promote positivity and will uplift you to believe and be who you want to be!   Start today with these 5 tips to overcome your self-doubt. Start with a little validation, a simple statement of “I am good enough because……” and recite this every day for the rest of the week.  

I believe that you are good enough just the way you are, now it’s your turn to believe it!